The Benefit of Using Fewer Words

Why I don’t like statements that end with “ok?”

Using too many words can overwhelm children.
When you use fewer words your child is more likely to pay attention and follow through with your request. Sometimes I see caregivers talking their way through their OWN wants with a child, as if they are trying to convince themselves of what they want the child to do. If you aren’t convinced of your want, then your child won’t be either. If what you are asking is reasonable, then take ownership in it and trust yourself. Ending requests with “ok?” does not instill confidence in your child and it allows them to respond with no. That’s why I prefer strong, concise statements like “you may do xyz” instead of “can you do xyz, ok?”