How to Encourage with Statements Versus Questions

Statements are better than Questions

What does this mean? When your child is constantly being asked to do things (ie: can you put your shoes on?, can you put your toys away?, etc) it is not only overwhelming to the child but you are allowing them the opportunity to say "no" by using the word "can.”

Instead of saying “Can you put your toys away please” or demanding “Put your toys away now,” try EMPOWERING them by using the word “May.” Remember the tone of your voice is also important. Be determined in your statement and own it.

Can you put your toys away please. ➡️ You may put your toys away.
Can you take your plate to the sink .➡️ You may take your plate to the sink.
Can you put your shoes on. ➡️ You may put your shoes on.

What if they don’t listen? Pause and follow up with “Hmm, lets put our shoes on together” or “The blocks go in this basket. I will put one away and then you may put one away.”